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In The Moment, via Sandy

Living in New Jersey brought an unwelcome visitor last week, hurricane Sandy. No electricity, no heat, no idea when both will be returning. And, also, no tree landing on our house, a particular blessing to be grateful for.
What it has afforded us with is mindfulness in action. When creature comforts are stripped from us, complacency is gone. We are in survival mode. We are very present to what needs to be done in THIS moment, whether it is how to respond to what our body needs such as warmth or food or to be fully aware of our present surroundings. I am struck by how much more awake I am to bodily sensations that otherwise I would have glossed over and the need to take care of myself physically, in the moment, because I don’t know what the future moments may, or may not afford me. I usually can easily gloss over hunger, feeling that ” I’ll grab something later.” In this present situation, It’s important to respond to that hunger because it might be very difficult to deal with it later, in the dark, in the cold.
I’m certainly much more attuned to nature, even if there is a paranoia to it. I’m certainly looking at trees and wind differently. with a lot more interest.
I notice a sadness regarding trees. They appear to be strong and vital and healthy but when not deeply rooted, are incredibly fragile. Quite a metaphor.
Although I do notice my thoughts in forward motion, wondering when WILL the power come back on, I am much more rooted into taking care of what’s in front of me NOW. I enjoy that and notice that it keeps me calmer and my senses are more awake.
In general, we spend much less time working with what’s right in front of us and way too much time ruminating about the past or projecting into the future. Last night, I spent time watching my breath, in the moment, in my 47 degree house.

Meditation and Science: A Happy Marriage

Today in Time Healthland there was a great blog post, “Omm…How meditation makes you smarter” | ti.me/O8I3ck, citing the cognitive changes that meditating can stimulate. Whenever I see these kinds of posts and articles (and they now appear with great regularity), I am glad and grateful that meditation continues to be mainstreamed and has left… Continue Reading

Sweet Surrender: Letting Go,Embracing What Presently “Is”

Our daughter came home recently from a whirlwind trip through Europe as sick as I’ve ever seen her. Too many countries, late nights, lack of sleep, close quarters was the perfect combination to totally wipe her out. Upon her return, she had a lot she wanted to accomplish and people to see; the spirit was… Continue Reading

Don’t Walk, Run : When the Professional Isn’t……..

What makes for a good professional relationship? Whether a therapist, a coach, a lawyer, an executive,,,, there are some basic ground rules that should apply to anyone that you hire to work with you. Recently there have been some scenarios that people have shared with me that are astonishing and disturbing since one “would” have… Continue Reading

Gotye, Cognitive Dissonance, and How To Keep The Girl

It’s unusual these days for me to get really enthused over new music but a few weeks ago I caught Gotye on Saturday Night Live singing “Somebody That I Used to Know” and I was intrigued. A little world music vibe, a little bit Sting, a little bit Peter Gabriel, and very cute. So, I… Continue Reading

Mindfulness and Politics: An unprecedented yet hopeful partnership

I read something online today that REALLY made my heart soar. There was article in the Washington Post highlighting a new book out by Rep. Tim Ryan of Ohio, “A Mindful Nation.” As I read the article which descibed Rep Ryan’s journey into his appreciation and utilization of meditation and mindfulness, I felt a wave… Continue Reading

Making Changes: Recycling Old Behaviors Into New Ones

I recently re-discovered this poem, which I hadn’t seen in a while, which I get the biggest kick out of.  It’s written by Portia Nelson and a great reminder of just how challenging doing things differently can be.  Enjoy! Autobiography in Five Short Chapters I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole… Continue Reading

Every Day, a Little Better Way

     I noticed this morning that as I reached for my contact lens case, it was in my medicine cabinet, the way it always is. That is, the way it’s been for the last 7 months. Prior to that, it was placed every night on the top of the toilet bowl tank… every night for… Continue Reading

Why Can’t We All Just Get Along

I have recently been dealing with a persistent back issue. My decision initally was to go “alternative” seeking the help of acupuncturists, chiropractors, therapeutic massage. This decision came from 2 distinct desires; one was to back my belief that eastern medicine has tremendous merit (although I’m no longer sure that chiro and acupuncture can still… Continue Reading

Fake It Till You Make It

In coaching I’m struck by how desperately people want to make changes in their lives but are convinced they have to “feel’ differently first before they can make the change. Most often it doesn’t occur that way. It really comes down to showing up in the world “as if” this new persona is already fully… Continue Reading