In coaching I’m struck by how desperately people want to make changes in their lives but are convinced they have to “feel’ differently first before they can make the change. Most often it doesn’t occur that way. It really comes down to showing up in the world “as if” this new persona is already fully in existence.

This is not an easy task; it involves a leap of faith, a belief that anything is possible, and that getting out of your head and listening to all the bad advice in there is only going to get you what you’ve always gotten.

Feelings follow experience, not the reverse. So showing up in the world as the possibility of who you can be and living from there will actually shift the reality; your world, the world of people, places and things will become significantly affected. This, in turn, will make it much easier for you to start REALLY getting what you want.

People, in general, are much bigger than they realize. Their feelings and view of themselves are determined by past experiences and a very limited belief of what is possible in the future. Whether this is about money or love or business, the positive perspective of what the future holds defines how you live and feel in the present.